In searching of love

Almost a quarter of young people are looking for their love with the help of sites and applications for dating.

The main advantage of this relatively new relationship search format is the huge number of potential partners. But then a number of difficulties arise.

You may have heard (or even come across yourself) about unsuccessful dates scheduled online. The reasons may be different: it turned out to be lower than indicated in the profile, its appearance was different from the photos, or he actively supported the conversation in correspondence, but at dinner he took water in his mouth.

In other words, a person’s profile and correspondence style may not correlate with a real person at all.

In recent collaborative research with psychology professor Jeff Hancock, we wondered: how often do people lie in dating apps? And what exactly do they want to lie about?

We were one of the first to raise this topic, but some also paid attention to tricks in online dating.

Previous works have mainly focused on the profiles of people in applications. It turned out that men tend to exaggerate their height and lie about work, while women underestimated the weight and put out insufficiently accurate photos.

But profiles are the first part of dating. Only after correspondence do you decide whether to meet a person.

To understand how often and what exactly people lie to their partners, we analyzed hundreds of messages sent after the coincidence of sympathies, but before a personal meeting. We called this period the "phase of discovery." More than 200 participants provided us with their correspondence and pointed out untruthful information in them. Some even explained why they did this, and that this is not a joke.