Dealing With a Mistress- Should I Be Friends With My Husband's Lover


 You have just found out that your husband has had an affair. You are on an emotional rollercoaster riding from anger to humiliation after going through the tunnel of hurt. Question upon question is going through your mind. What is this woman like? Does he love her? Was it just about sex?

There is also the unenviable situation of the choices you now have to make. Do you stay and try to rebuild your marriage or do you bow out gracefully preserving your dignity?

Every situation is different so my advice is that you take ideas that are relevant to you and your situation and ones where you truly believe that you can follow through. Now is not the time for acting on impulse. Take time to consider your options and what you want.

Unless the affair was just about sex then it may be wise to consider befriending your husband's mistress. It is not conventional, nor will it be easy but it may just save your marriage. If you have any concerns pertaining to the place and how to use 女王様, you can get in touch with us at our own website.

Evidently there was something about this woman who attracted your husband to her in the first place. She may be similar to you just a little more quirky or the polar opposite of you. Either way, wouldn't you want to know? I know I would.

No doubt you are wondering how befriending the mistress will potentially save your marriage. To begin with, if your husband is in love with this woman, forcing him to cut all contact with her will probably work in the short-term but eventually he could come to resent the fact that you forced him to give her up. This is especially true if whatever was originally missing in your marriage still has not been fixed.

How are you going to make it work having your husband's mistress in your life? And more importantly in his life? Well for one thing it will give your husband the chance to see if it was the thrill of the chase and the excitement of the secrecy that he was after or, and I know this part is hard, whether he truly is in love with her. The former generally means that any relationship, friendship or otherwise will fizzle out very quickly. The latter on the other hand and your choice becomes a far harder and potentially more selfless one.