In this podcast, I answer a question from MsM about dating. How do you know if it's time to date? (We all know that newly dating + early sobriety = stress and overwhelm.) Is it time to date? If so, what should you watch out for?
And while i was recording this, I came up with a good litmus test for "am I ready to date or not." You might be surprised at what I say :)
homework: if you are single, does some of this resonate with you? what parts? if you're married or in a relationship, do you think you are sometimes 'performing' for your spouse/partner?
Comment from listener:
Case Study Michelle: "I notice that I have interactions where I am totally comfortable and genuinely "me". I leave those and never look back to analyze the conversation or get concerned about what I said or how I said it. I have others that feel like work and like I'm presenting a less than authentic me, like I am presenting the me that they would find most pleasing. I walk away from those and second guess everything I said and did. So, if I ever decide to date, hopefully I will know to look for someone who I interact with like in the first category. (That was a very badly formed sentence....not that I'm analyzing THIS interaction.)"