“My daughter just won’t cooperate.”
“The tantrums have gotten out of control.”
“He promises to do his chores, but then he doesn’t.”
“She’s having trouble making friends at her new high school.”
“I’m trying everything I can think of... but I’m at my wit’s end!”
If you’re a parent, chances are you’ve uttered at least one of those statements during the past year—or something pretty similar.
Dr. Suzanne Gelb, a psychologist and life coach, who has worked with parents and families for many years, and also an attorney (currently inactive) who has handled family law cases, intimately understands your frustrations.
Year after year, moms, dads, and kids—from toddlers to teenagers—have stepped into Dr. Gelb’s offices, and she has heard stories about every crisis, melt-down, tantrum, and hair-pulling situation that you can imagine.
Three decades—and thousands of transformational success stories—into her career, Dr. Gelb has consolidated her immense knowledge into a new guidebook for parents:
IT STARTS WITH YOU.
This book does not outline a “revolutionary” or “ground-breaking” parenting philosophy. Rather, just the opposite. It’s a refreshingly simple guidebook on how to raise great kids by setting a great example that your kids naturally want to follow. As Dr. Gelb explains, you set the tone for your household. If your child is acting out, first, look towards yourself. IT STARTS WITH YOU urges parents to get back to basics—starting with your words, your actions, your role modeling; the messages that you knowingly (and unknowingly) feed to your child every day.
In this book, you’ll find:
- Relatable stories from parents and kids
- Tips on how to set age-appropriate rules and consequences for kids of all ages, including teenagers
- Worksheets to organize and track family chores and responsibilities
- Guidelines to help you resolve dozens of tricky, uncomfortable scenarios (from public tantrums to curfew-breaking to texting at the dinner table to navigating major life events, like illness or divorce)
- Inspiration to heal and improve your own mind, body, and life—forgiving your own parents, releasing the past, becoming a stronger, more positive role model for your kids: a family leader who’s worthy of admiration and respect
Fans have called this book “game-changing” and “incredibly effective,” and the message rippling through the pages of IT STARTS WITH YOU is one of hope and empowerment:
It is never too late to become the person, parent, and role model that you want to be—and that your child needs and deserves.
Your child is looking to you & counting on you.
It all starts with you.
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Digital (PDF). 172 pages. Read it on your tablet, phone, or computer.
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Praise for IT STARTS WITH YOU
"I always thought it was my kids' fault for not cooperating. After reading this book, I realized that if I wanted them to cooperate, I needed to change how I was parenting. That's exactly what happened (I made some changes, and then they did too). So remarkably simple... so incredibly effective. Wow!” — Belinda K.
"I've read a lot of parenting books, but this one is totally unique. Dr. Gelb has captured the essence of effective parenting in this gem of a book and taken the mystery (and the struggle) out of raising, happy, fun-loving, well-adjusted kids. Beautifully written, practical, easy-to-read. Finally, peace at home... thanks to this book!”
— Mark B.
"The stories that Dr. Gelb shares at the beginning of the chapters in the book about the parents she's worked with—and their successes—are so inspiring to a parent like me who is pulling her hair out, trying to get my kids to listen. The self-reflection exercises throughout the book are game-changers. I went from feeling frustrated and helpless, to empowered and pleased with the changes I see in my kids (and my whole family) as I implement the tools and solutions offered in this book.”
— Tracy L.
“Mommy read this book and now we have all our rules on a chart on the fridge. I know what I am supposed to do and I don’t forget things. Also, we don’t yell as much. It’s awesome!”
— Ryan, 8
"Daddy doesn't get mad and yell at everyone, and slam doors like he used to. Mommy says it's because he read your parenting book. I am so happy, thank you."
— Adam, 9
"My parents never used to listen to anything I had to say. It was always, "Because I said so." I used to cry myself to sleep, and not want to get up in the mornings. Lately [after they read this book] they've been really listening to me when I have something to say. For the first time ever, I feel heard in my family, and like I belong, and that I want to be part of this family. It's so different at home now... so much better."
— Jenny, 12.
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Praise for Dr. Suzanne Gelb
“Dr. Gelb’s warmth and calm nature make her extremely approachable. She is a gifted expert on a wide range of parenting topics, no matter what your child’s age. She’s inspiring, insightful and always empowering and provides you with the tools you need to become the best parent you can be.”
—Ron Mizutani, Anchor, Reporter, KHON2 TV News
“As a fairly new mother, I am constantly learning about the many challenges, yet extraordinary blessings, parents endure. I always look forward to the practical and insightful advice Dr. Gelb offers.
Everything she shares is so inspiring, not only to myself, but to other parents as well. She has a wealth of knowledge and makes learning about parenting, family life and relationships informative, engaging and fun.”
—Kanoe Gibson, Weather Anchor, Reporter, KHON2 TV News
“I have interviewed Dr. Gelb on a number of occasions relating primarily to issues of child-rearing. Her insight includes common sense, compassion and wisdom.
If you have children, Dr. Gelb’s a good person to have in your Rolodex.
[I’m dating myself, aren’t I?]”
—Kirk Matthews, Anchor, Reporter, KHON2 TV News
“For the past 14+ years, Dr. Suzanne Gelb has contributed thought-provoking, problem-solving, inspired articles to every issue of Hawaii Parent. Her articles have enhanced the credibility & success of our magazine.“
—Charlie Harrington, Publisher, Hawaii Parent Magazine I just read and shared your beautiful article!
“It is never, ever too late to become the person, parent, and role model that you want to be.”
Love, Love, Love! You are so precious and your wisdom helps so many of us!
—Dr. Susan Mathison
“Dr. Gelb has a gentle spirit that instantly makes you feel like you’ve come home. The depth of her wisdom is undeniable, her curiosity is insatiable and her love is palpable. These qualities make her the perfect guide for life.
In the pages of the Life Guides you will find practical and proven processes to support you in living your great life.
Whether it’s heart-centered wisdom on navigating the dating world, love-based strategies for becoming a parent, or reaching your ideal weight through kindness, Dr. Gelb’s Life Guides are gifts to be treasured.”
—Dr. Gemma Stone
Read an excerpt from the book
Download here: drsuzannegelb.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/IT-STARTS-WITH-YOU-excerpt.pdf